Recognising the Role of Gender in Family Violence

What is gender?

Gender means the roles, behaviours, and expectations that society gives to people based on if they are seen as male or female. For example, some cultures expect men to be strong and in control, and women to be quiet or obedient. These ideas are not always fair.

Why gender matters in family violence

Family violence often happens because one person wants power and control over another. Many times, this power is linked to gender.

• Most victims of family violence are women and the abuser is a male partner.
• Some people believe men should control their family. This belief can lead to abuse.
• People with different gender identities (like transgender or non-binary people) can also be hurt, especially because of discrimination.

Different experiences based on gender

• Women and children are more likely to face physical, emotional, and sexual abuse.
• Men may be hurt too, but they often feel pressure to stay quiet because of ideas like “men should be strong.”
• LGBTQIA+ people might not ask for help because they are afraid of being judged.

Culture and gender

In some cultures, women are expected to stay with their partner, even if he is abusive. These beliefs make it hard for women to leave or get help.

How gender affects survivors

• Women may stay in violence because they have no money, no safe place to go, or worry about their children.
• Men may feel ashamed to ask for help.
• LGBTQIA+ people may not know where to find safe, respectful support.